Tuesday, October 5, 2010

A Sudanese Wedding


Last week Grant came home with an invitation to a wedding in the city. The father of the bride is a busines associate and connected to the company Grant and Issam work for. Issam, Grant and I attended the wedding together. The reception was held in a new wedding hall in Bahri (Khartoum North) across the Nile from where we live in Omdurman. In May we also attended a wedding (a double one) with Issam, which you can read about here,  but this wedding was a really upmarket, plush affair.

I was intrigrued that you don't actually get to see the parents of the bride or groom. We were welcomed at the door by the bride's father but he stayed at the top of the hall, even going home before the end of the reception. When I asked Issam where the mother of the bride was, he said she was probably somewhere in a group of women. She is very shy and quite a bit older than her husband, apparently you never see her! The groom's father made an appearance at the dancing group (see photo near bottom of post) with his friends. But I have no idea who the mother of the groom is. We also didn't get to hear the names of the bridal couple.

However, the setting was beautiful, the reception was great fun for me who met quite a number of people and took lots of photos. And the food was delicious.

The beautifully embossed wedding invitation we received last Tuesday
In Arabic!

Here we are: off to the wedding on Wednesday evening

Catering for weddings is big business in Khartoum now. Wedding halls such as this one (see exterior below)  are used. The caterers attend to every detail of the wedding: decorations, music, food, the cake, the photograher and videographer and invitations. This hall is part of a  recreational (theme) park which are also very popular in Khartoum. There is no "P" in Arabic, hence the  word "Bark"  
The exterior of the new wedding hall where we attended the wedding last week
A beautifully decorated stage housed the bridal throne where the couple sit and receive good wishes and blessings from the guests

A live Sudanese band provided the music for the wedding reception. By law the music stops at 11pm. The guests only arrive between 9 and 9.15. The bridal couple arrive at about 9h40. All in all, only a short reception

The bridal couple and the bride's entourage  will arrive using this beautifully decorated archway
The arrival of the bridal car outside was shown on the huge TV screens. The band stopped playing, the lights were dimmed  and  taped music was used for the bridal procession. I was fascinated that "Here comes the bride" (in English) was played although the lyrics were totally different.
The beautiful couple make their appearance in the centre of the hall

The bridal couple stopped in front of the arch and had their first dance together. This is a very westernised part of the ceremony, as is the bride wearing a white gown and the groom wearing a suit instead of traditional Sudanese outfits  

I just had to include this photo. I loved the way all the little boys dashed forward and tried to grab the bubbles which were floating around the bridal couple

After the first dance together, the bridal couple proceed to a table where a three - tier - wedding cake was displayed. The cut the cake together and then feed each other a mouthful of the delicacy. This is to signify the hope that their married life will be filled with sweetness

A bridesmaid helps the bride as she and her handsome new husband prepare to sit on the bridal throne
The bridal couple sit on a throne and the guests line up to congratulate them. In our society (South African weddings) the bridal couple wander through the tables and greet/chat to the guests
No matter what your age or gender, you join the happy group in front of the bandstage and dance. Yes, dance, clap your hands, click your fingers, stamp your feet and have a good time!
While the people were dancing in a bunch, the older men of the groom's family marched down the hall from the back. The oldest gentleman (I heard he was the groom's father) lifted his walking stick and waved it around happily, smiling and nodding at the groom. The groom is just visible behind the walking stick head


These ladies asked me to photograph them. The pretty one in yellow was one of six bridesmaids. The bride's sister, (not pictured) a married woman with a child, was the maid of honour. The tall beautiful girl on the right of the photo was also a bridesmaid. (I was unable to get a photo of the other bridesmaids or the maid of honour)

On one of my forays into the dancing crowd (to take photos!) I stopped at a table and chatted to a young woman. She was the fourth stranger I'd struck up a conversation with that night! Grant always says: "Jo, what do you talk about to people you don't know?" Ha!  The lady in question ,  second from the left, in red and yellow,  was called Mona and works at the Ministry for Industry. By the end of the evening she'd introuced me to several of her cousins (one, standing on her right) family of the bridegroom, (the bridesmaid in yellow and the handsome fellow) and a couple of aunts and uncles attending the wedding. She also invited me to a workshop at the Ministry next month
The wedding proceedings,  from the time the bride and groom arrive outside the hall in the bridal car, is videoed and guests can follow on large overhead screens

If you look towards the back of the photo, you'll see groups of men - mostly turbanned -  sitting at tables near the entrance . I think many of them smoke and this is not allowed indoors so they sit there to make a quick exit outdoors.  In the foreground of the photo you'll see women and children sitting in groups at the tables
Note again: women sit in groups at the tables. Near the band, young and old stand and dance to the music

The cute  little girl is certainly more priviledged than some of the children I posted about last week
Grant and Issam looking rather serious.They assured me they were having a great time!
The walkway from the wedding venue. Grant and Issam walking towards the car park after the wedding

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The Arabic for wedding is Zfāf  (Zifaaff)

15 comments:

Joyful said...

How wonderful that you and Grant are getting to experience life as it is for the Sudanese. It looks like a wonderful wedding. The wedding couple is certainly handsome and I wish them a long and happy life together.

Kay L. Davies said...

Oh, this is fabulous, Jo... the old culture and the new, overlapping but not quite blending... and I had to laugh about Grant and Issam insisting they were having a great time when they certainly didn't look it. I'm afraid I would be somewhat shy, because I don't have your flair for striking up conversations with strangers.
Thank you for sharing these fascinating photos with us.

Kay, Alberta

RCUBEs said...

What an awesome celebration! It's amazing to see weddings from another part of the world...yet...so modern! God bless you sister Jo and thank you for sharing your amazing photos!

Betsy from Tennessee said...

Wow Jo.... I'm impressed... Who would have thought they would have such huge weddings there --like they do here in the USA???? You took some great pictures. The bride and groom are gorgeous people... You looked so pretty, Jo... Did you make your dress? It is gorgeous.

Thanks for sharing such beauty...
Hugs,
Betsy

Gaelyn said...

A very interesting cultural mix at this wedding. Love the colorful traditional clothing. Oh, and you look beautiful. Hope you get to know Mona better. Always nice to network and meet locals.

Sylvia K said...

This is so terrific, Jo! I love all your photos, seeing the traditional clothing, the amazing cultural mix, the young, the old and everyone! Thanks so much for sharing this with us today! Hope you have a wonderful week!

Sylvia

ewok1993 said...

I love learning about different cultures especially their wedding traditions. How lovely that you shared all these wonderful pictures and your experiences with us.

diane said...

It is interesting learning about other cultures. You are lucky to experience it first hand but I am happy to be able to see it second hand, You look a handsome couple and so fit and thin. The wedding was a mix of traditional and western. I was surprised to see some of the young beautiful girls didn't have their hair covered.

ladyfi said...

What a lovely experience. So beautiful!

Lori Skoog said...

Jo ...this was so interesting. Thanks for letting us join you. A beautiful couple and setting.

Pat said...

Wow! This was a beautiful, lavish wedding, fancier than most weddings I've ever been to!

Everyone looks so nice in their very fancy wedding clothes. It seems very much like a western wedding reception.

Great post, Jo!

Emille said...

You did a great job capturing the event (easy to understand as an outsider. The bridal attire looks rather Western - is it?
Yo and hubby look marvelous!

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